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Solene Paillet, Marketing Specialist, Gleeden- the first extra-marital dating website, speaks about the various issues on extra-marital. Testimonial - “I'm 31 years old, I've been married for 11 years now and I have to admit that my extramarital relationship has literally changed me. Before that, I thought I had lost my femininity, I did not feel seductive and above all, I felt alone. I felt that only my role as a mother counted and it made me very unhappy. I met my lover, also married and since then, we share stolen moments of happiness. It is a way for us to escape from our daily lives without hurting our spouses and families.”- Anonymous user “Marriages are made in heaven”; a popular phrase once holds little relevance today. Marriage is no longer believed to be a holy institution. In fact, marriage has nothing to do with religion. With the increasing rate of divorce, the wedding vows are not to be taken seriously. Marriages often turn out to be a disaster due to factors like lack of compatibility between partners, dissatisfaction in the bedroom, an abusive partner, financial problems and more. While divorce seems like an easy way out in these situations, not everyone has the luxury to break their marriage. A failed marriage comes with unavoidable consequences. For instance, children find it hard to deal with the separation of their parents. Some even go into severe depression after their parents go through a divorce. Thus, many couples tend to stay in unhappy marriages for the sake of their children. However, an emotionally flat marriage can take a toll on the wellbeing of the couple, leaving them deeply miserable about a situation they have no control over. Especially, women are often pressurized to put up a façade despite being stuck in a loveless marriage. This can even give birth to health complications such as depression, anxiety, and heart diseases in extreme cases. Then comes the question; Is there any escape for women who face constant marital conflicts? Well, an extramarital affair can be the answer for this kind of situations. While infidelity is frowned upon in most societies, it is not uncommon. Extramarital affairs can be like a breath of fresh air for women who have been suffering for long. With the changing times, the stigma attached to infidelity, adultery and extra-marital affairs have disappeared to an extent. Women, more precisely, independent women are not refraining away from experimenting with romantic relationships. Women nowadays are refusing to feel guilty about having a lover out of wedlock. Instead of leaving everything to fate, they want to steer their life to find happiness. Women caged in an unhappy marriage, may find a sense of freedom when they enter an extra-marital affair. An affair outside marriage offers them a clean slate; a chance to start afresh. An affair also provides women with the emotional support that is absent in their marriage. Extra-marital affairs also bring along a sense of thrill, freshness, and unpredictability. Moreover, women feel like an entirely different person when they get involved in an extra-marital affair; someone who is more attractive, desirable, and most importantly worthy of being loved. In many ways, extra-marital affairs can work as a confidence booster for women, making them feel understood, appreciated, and validated. Infidelity gives women access to a whole new world where they can enjoy themselves without having to think about any responsibilities, expectations, or bills. The secrecy of an extra-marital affair is also quite addictive. Researchers have found out that secrecy in relationships helps increase the passion. An extra-marital affair opens the door to a secret yet perfect world for women who are caught in a repetitive loop of their boring marriage. Naturally, society’s approach towards women involved in infidelity is slowly but steadily changing. The concept of right versus wrong is fluid; it is subject to change. What is considered a sin at this point of time, may not be looked down at after 100 years from now. The truth is, there is no clear-cut way to tell if something is right or wrong. Majority of people in the society go by what is morally acceptable to them. In other words, they live their life based on their own moral values. In today’s world, women have every right to explore relationships outside marriage in the quest for true happiness. Author: Ms. Solene Paillet, Marketing Specialist, Gleeden.  Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author’s and do not represent those of the GlobalSpa.